> > On Fri, 26 Feb 1999, Louise Lawrence wrote: > my list, and lived (barely) to tell about it... The list is a one of a support type, > where many people and extremely sensitive/easily hurt. > > Could you be more explicit as to why they are so sensitive? *** The list is of a "support" type, and one of the main manifesting symptoms, a *diagnostic criteria* for this "condition", is *hypersensitivity* to other's comments/behaviors etc. It sounds a bit like "they can dish it out but can't take it." *** What seemed to have been happening with one person involved is that she just kept on "dishing", *even* when no one was giving for her "taking" ...sigh... > > I asked that the heated conversation be taken privately, and this was > > interpreted by a handful of the people involved(some whom are friends > > > > "debate"), I will be silenced, and forced off of the list". Absurd. > > One party also very abusively flamed me on list, posting parts of my > > private mail to her in an "out of context" type of way. > > It sounds as if you have not established yourself as THE listowner so > they think of you only as another subscriber. *** Well, this was a new sub. She became aware, and unfortunately pretty much did not care that I was the list owner. Didn't mean a thing to her. But I do think the person who called me what he did(her friend & former list member) became concerned regarding what he had said. He ended that mail with "I'm really,(I'll say "mad" here) and not afraid to show it". A "qualifier" for his words... or so he thought. As well, after I sent him a *very* direct and clear(*not* flaming, only matter of fact like) mail letting him know he was history, he didn't mail/flame me after that whatsoever. Continued with the female though. I've stopped responding completely now, and as per the suggestion/current activity of many listowners I will be setting all new subs. to "review". I am new listowner, learning the "listowner ropes' here, but learning quickly with help. Take care, Louise >