>
>        Is there anyway to have NOTIFY= YES, while there is more than
>one owner, and have the notifications (add, delete, etc) sent to
>only ONE of the owners of a list?
 
Yes, Use "quiet" owners as below:
 
* Notify= Yes
* Owner= OWNER1@MYNODE,quiet:,OWNER2@MYNODE,OWNER3@MYNODE
 
All owners past the "quiet:" do not receive all that stuff -- only the
ones before that keyword.